If I hear somebody in Germany calling another person foreigner I would try to “kill” the speaker with my looks. In Germany, foreigner can have a bad connotation. Sometimes it means "We don′t want you to be here". Calling somebody foreigner is a no go in Germany if you want to be polite.
In China this appellation has a totally different connotation. If I hear foreigner in the bus or at the street it has a friendly meaning. The speaker is curious, wants to know where I′m from and what I′m doing in Ningbo. Even I know that there is still a strange feeling for me.
In Ningbo there are just a few foreign-looking people. When I sit in the bus, go shopping, buy something in the supermarket or only cross the streets I feel hundreds of eyes looking at me. Sometimes shy, sometimes with a smile, sometimes intensive and concentrated, that I fear they would have an accident because they don′t pay attention to the traffic. Sometimes I feel like a very special animal in a zoo. Maybe a pink elephant, a purple giraffe or even a Martian? If I dress up for a party with a beautiful make-up, create an elaborate hairstyle and wear a showy dress I wouldn′t earn so many admiring glances in Germany like I do while sitting in the bus wearing leisure clothes in Ningbo.
Actually , I love to keep people, and situations under close review to analyze persons and group dynamics. Sometimes I even wish to be able to fly so that I can watch as a neutral observer without taking part and influencing the events. In Ningbo I can′t do that since I would change the reality when I appear, more than I wish. Another point is, I think people around me treat me as someone special less as an equal person. For example, there is no need to offer a seat for me on the bus, there is no need to tell children in an exhibition to take another seat, so that I could have more space; there is no need to ask me to take me somewhere, when I just sit in a bank waiting for a friend. In all given examples it′s meant well and I appreciate the politeness and help, but it′s really no necessary.
This time I′m just a foreign guest who looks for experience and will leave soon, but if I stay longer, like working here or having a family here, maybe I would feel uncomfortable to those offers and looks.